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Friday, September 9, 2011
Is my Mom crazy or does she have a point?
Last weekend I suprised my daughter with roses. It's something I have done in the past, not often, cause I want it to be something special. Something that will happen often enough that it will still be special, but not too often that she takes it for granted. I think the last time I did it was about 6 months ago. She was ecstatic! The look on her face was just precious....she wanted them in her room next to her bed!!! Best $10 I ever spent!!!! However, my Mother feels that getting a dozen roses for a 3 year old is spoiling her and no matter how often I do it she will get used to it and think that she is entitled to them and that the feeling of entitlement will rub off in other aspects of her life. To me that is kind of an old school way of thinking...but does she have a point???? Is this spoiling her??? Or was I just being a good Daddy? Is my Mom crazy or does she have a point????
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Your mom is crazy. My dad used to give me flowers when I was little and I LOVED it. I never "expected" anything, it was just nice to get a little surprise showing that he loved me. I was Daddy's Little Girl, and I still am now! We have an awesome relationship and I don't think flowers could have possibly spoiled me because they come from the heart, unlike the abundance of toys some parents buy their kids.
ReplyDeleteI think its sweet , I don't thinkit will spoil her or that she will take it for granted
ReplyDeleteI think it's very nice of you, and like you said, you don't do it that often where she will get used to it, the only thing I would say is why not pick some flowers for her instead, if you're able to? Or get her just a few flowers, instead of a dozen roses? When I was little, and my father would cut the grass, not every time, but quite a few times, he would bring me a dandelion. When I was older, I found out that they were weeds, but I still didn't care, and especially not when I was really little; I thought they were pretty flowers, and he would pick just one to give to me when he was done mowing the lawn. Free, simple, and very special. But each family is different, and I think the idea you have is great. Would she be disappointed if the next time involved just one rose or one tulip or something simple like that?
ReplyDeleteI think it is awesome...just mix up the surprises now and then. A spoiled child has an attitude about what she is entitled to not the knowledge that her Daddy thinks she is special and brings her flowers a couple times a year, just for being her!
ReplyDeleteMaybe mom is jealous?
You are a great daddy! So thoughtful and loving. She will look back on these memories and smile always. Like you said you are not doing it too often for her to take it for granted. It is just a reminder that she has a wonderful daddy that loves her.
ReplyDeleteHave to agree with you on this one, Matt. I have two daughters, and I think the relationship a girl has with her daddy is precious, and giving her something special like roses every six months or so is a wonderful memory that you are making for her....just a kind of "secret" special thing between the two of you that will make her feel valued and loved. Keep up the good work! There needs to be more dads like you around! :-)
ReplyDeleteThe only prob I see is that you started with a doz. roses. Makes it difficult to show improvement, when you start at the top.
ReplyDeletethats very sweet of you,matt. i wish My daddy would buy me roses. she's very lucky to have a father like you. some girls' fathers dont even care for them, let alone be so loving and caring.
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